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You’re the Only One I Can Tell Adventure

August 16, 2017 @ 5:30 PM

in partnership with Watermark

About the Event


Adventures by the Book is pleased to partner with Watermark for a You’re the Only One I Can Tell Adventure with Deborah Tannen, author of many books and articles about how the language of everyday conversation affects relationships.

Best friend, old friend, good friend, bff, college roommate, neighbor, workplace confidante: Women’s friendships are a lifeline in times of trouble and a support system for daily life. A friend can be like a sister, daughter, mother, mentor, therapist or confessor – or she can be all of these at once. She’s seen you at your worst and celebrates you at your best. Figuring out what it means to be friends is, in the end, no less than figuring out how we connect to other people.

In her illuminating and validating new book, You’re the Only One I Can Tell, Deborah Tannen deconstructs the ways women friends talk and how those ways can bring friends closer or pull them apart. From casual chatting to intimate confiding, from talking about problems to telling what you had for dinner, Deborah uncovers the patterns of communication and miscommunication that affect friendships at different points in our lives.

She shows how even the best of friends – with the best intentions – can say the wrong thing, and how words can repair the damage done by words. Through Deborah’s signature insight, humor and ability to present pitch-perfect real-life dialogue, readers will see themselves and their friendships on every page.

The book explains:

  • the power of women friends who show empathy, give advice – or just listen
  • how women use talk to connect to friends – and to subtly compete
  • how “Fear of Being Left Out” and “Fear of Getting Kicked Out” can haunt women’s friendships
  • how social media is reshaping communication and relationships

Drawing on interviews with 80 women of diverse backgrounds, ranging in age from nine to 97, You’re the Only One I Can Tell gets to the heart of women’s friendships – how they work or fail, how they help or hurt, and how we can make them better.

About the Author

Deborah Tannen is University Professor and Professor of Linguistics at Georgetown University and author of many books and articles about how the language of everyday conversation affects relationships. She is best known as the author of You Just Don’t Understand: Women and Men in Conversation, which was on the New York Times best seller list for nearly four years, including eight months as No. 1, and has been translated into 31 languages. This is the book that brought gender differences in communication style to the forefront of public awareness. Her later book, You Were Always Mom’s Favorite!: Sisters in Conversation Throughout Their Lives, also a New York Times best seller, received a Books for a Better Life Award and was featured on 20/20 and NPR’s Morning Edition.



August 16, 2017
5:30 PM